Loving One Another: Hard Conversations
Our 2019 theme is, “All Will Know.” It is taken from John 13:35: “By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” Our love for one another is indispensable in seeing the people around us drawn to Jesus. Sometimes we fail to love one another well. I hurt someone in the church this past week that I had no intention of hurting. The lack of wrong motives didn’t change the fact that my offense was real.
This brother in Christ came to me in tears. I was so disconnected with the offense, that I was caught off guard – it simply never occurred to me that what I had done (or not done, as the case here) was an issue. I thought I was giving the space someone wanted when they really wanted and needed my presence. Once I saw the situation through his eyes, there was no question that I was wrong and should have known better. No excuses. I am so grateful that this brother embraced me with tearful forgiveness.
There were easier ways out for this FBCer. He could have said, “no big deal,” and left it alone. He could have decided it was a big deal and left the church, not saying a word. The hard thing to do was to risk my rejection, to risk that I would get angry and argue.
He risked that I would create more pain. But by taking the risk, he loved me well. I was made aware of the offense, so I could take the steps I needed toward loving him well. I was made aware of a mistake so I can avoid it in the future. I will be a better follower of Jesus because of the risk this person took.
This FBCer took seriously that he had a role to play in my becoming more like Jesus. I am so grateful that he did. It was a hard conversation for me to hear. But the Lord knew I needed to hear it. The Lord entrusted a hard message to a faithful servant. I am so glad He did.